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Ever since I heard of the “non-negotiables” concept, I’ve been a believer and user. The idea of creating non-negotiable items is that you decide what your priorities in life are and what you are ready to say no to. Non-negotiables are things that are a must for you and they are in no way optional. They make you function and are critical for your wellbeing and happiness.

Figuring out your negotiables will help you evaluate what makes you happy and inspired. Setting goals is not selfish; they are a necessity in life. Many of us struggle with taking time for ourselves and feel guilty when we spend time alone, especially when people need us and tasks need to be finished. But by taking better care of ourselves, we will also be able to better care for others.


Letting your family and friends know what is important to you will not only keep you accountable but also allow them to support you. Calling your goals non-negotiables makes them automatically the most important things to you. Tt sends a message to your family and friends that these musts are so important to you that they aren’t up for discussion.

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If you aren’t sure what your non-negotiables should be, here are some ideas to get your started.

  • 30 minutes daily for exercise (walk, yoga or strength training)
  • Dedicated alone time
  • Daily meditation

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  • Spending time outside
  • Spending time with your family
  • Reading
  • Spending time every week with friends
  • Daily time for a hobby (painting, drawing, knitting, photography, creating scrapbooks, etc.)
  • Actively learning new things (taking classes, reading subject matter books, etc.)
  • Take a daily vitamin
  • Have sit down dinners with the family
  • No social media or email after 7 pm

Having set priorities will make you feel in control and set up for success. They are a great way to set up 2016 for a successful year.