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One pound. Not even one pound.

This is what I have thought every Monday morning since my daughter was born this past June. You see, every Monday morning I weigh myself but, despite all of my efforts to lose weight, that little number (lately it’s that big number) on the scale hasn’t seemed to move. Not even one pound.

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When I was pregnant with my now 3-year-old son, I was sure that I would lose all of my baby weight within a month. Yeah, I was a little bit crazy then. So when other mom friends told me I wouldn’t be back into my pre-pregnancy clothes for probably a year, I just smiled and nodded and then forgot all about it. I was not going to be that mom who was still holding onto my baby weight after a whole year, especially since I was breastfeeding! I was under the impression that the weight would just fall off because I would be nursing him… Boy was I wrong! This may be the case for some moms, but it definitely wasn’t for me. By my son’s second birthday, I was still holding onto an extra unwanted 20 pounds.

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Then I got pregnant again. I was sure that this time would be different. This time I didn’t gain much weight and I was determined to lose what I had gained quickly. I was still going to breastfeed, but I just knew that this time the weight would fall off. Well, it did in the first few weeks, then something strange happened.

Despite eating well and exercising, the number on the scale started to climb and it wasn’t going back down. So, naturally I started to eat better and work out more, and still nothing. I was so frustrated because all of my other mom friends seemed to get back into their pre-pregnancy clothes so quickly and here I was buying new clothes in a larger size and investing in some shape wear to hide my mommy pouch. Now, my daughter is 4 months old and I have learned a few humbling things about losing weight while breastfeeding.

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1. My body needs the extra calories that I am intaking. I was trying to cut calories to lose weight, but what I was actually doing was making my body think that I was starving. So my body started to hold on to extra fat so that it had enough fat to make milk for my growing little one.

2. I need to drink more water. Not only does water keep me hydrated and provide more water to my body for making milk, but it also helps to lose weight in a healthy way.

3. I need to stop putting pressure on myself. I just had a baby 4 months ago. All of us moms need to stop conforming to what the media, magazines or social media think a new mom should look like. I am a mom to two great kids that my body grew, held and fed. That’s pretty amazing.

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4. I need to be consistent with my healthy choices. I won’t be breastfeeding forever (I hope!). If I continue to make healthy choices with my diet and exercise, it will benefit my children as well as my family.

I know the weight will come off eventually. Right now, the best thing I can do is continue to eat healthy so my body has the fuel needed to feed my daughter. I am a mom and I am okay with holding on to my baby weight for a few more months.