The Relief of Forgiveness

Forgiveness (noun) Act of forgiving. Willing or able to forgive; allowing room for error or weakness.

If you’re a mother, this is probably a very common term in your every day vocabulary, especially, if you have multiple children.  I know that we have an “I’m sorry…please forgive me” conversation at least once a day in our household. It may be as minor as speaking an unnecessary comment or taking a beloved toy from a sibling. But “Forgiveness” is a common household term. It is also a slow process which is not easy for us as human beings.

Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change, a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of retaliation. The act which offended you may always remain a part of your life, but it is said forgiveness can help lessen the grip on you. It may help you focus on more positive aspects in your life. Forgiveness brings about a kind of peace which helps you move forward in life. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace and hope which leads to physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Refusing to forgive is like having a festering open wound within our soul that will not heal. Seeking revenge or wanting to inflict harm to another will only deplete your strength. Your wounds will not heal and may lead to depression.

When we have been wronged we immediately want to retaliate, make the person(s) involved hurt as much as they hurt us or continue to hold a grudge. This unhealthy behavior can certainly hurt you not only physically but mentally as well. It may not be obvious to you, but I am certain others in your life are aware of it. It can be seen in your everyday actions, the way you approach specific situations or how you perceive others. Holding on to the bitterness and anger can cause numerous issues. Forgiveness is crucial to true healing. Even if the situation cannot be repaired, if you are capable of forgiveness, then your mental health will be that much better because you chose to take the BIG step and do what is right.

From a Christian perspective, one of the most difficult and unnatural duties is learning to forgive. Forgiving is a supernatural act which Jesus Christ was capable of. He did this everyday on his journey. God truly blessed him with a wonderful gift. It is difficult to remember that every one of us is “broken”. Jesus understood the “brokenness” of the human individual. He knows we are all weak.

How to forgive…Have you ever had an issue in your life which bothered you so badly, but you just didn’t know how to confront it? Or maybe you’ve attempted to fix the problem, but the other person(s) involved just bit your head-off? What do you do? Continue to live your life with that burden and your subconscious continually affected by the trauma or do you finally take that BIG step, confront the person and “Forgive” them even if they show absolutely no remorse? Are you clear on what forgiveness really is?

Colossians 3:13 Bear with one another, forgive whatever grievances you have against one another. Forgive as the Lord has forgiven you.

Romans 12:19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves; leave that to God’s wrath, for it is written: “’Vengeance is mine; I will repay’ says the Lord.”