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We have all made a resolution at one time or another to get healthy. We all say, “This is my year!” But in reality, life gets in the way and our momentum drops for one reason or another. Here are some tips to keep that momentum going so working out can become a lifestyle rather than an obligation.

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Love yourself and know that you are important. We all love our children so much that at times we become so selfless we forget to take care of ourselves and be a little selfish. I realize that many children don’t like “gym kidcare,” but if you think of the endless hours you spend caring for your children and doing things for them, 90 minutes of them “suffering” won’t kill them. They will appreciate you much more if you feel accomplished and refreshed mentally and physically as well as the fact that you are setting a great example for them by taking time for yourself.

Join a gym. When you are working out at home, those distractions seem to multiply by the minute! This may not be an option for everyone, but for those who can, there are several benefits of working out outside of the home. First, just the fact that you are paying to use the facility can get you out the door. No one wants to waste money paying for something they aren’t using. Again, you are “investing” in yourself—you are worth it! Another benefit is that many gyms provide group fitness classes where you can build a great social network and try something new that you may not have done before. Click here to brush up on the top trending group fitness classes!

Have an accountability partner. Find a friend or neighbor who is at the same level and has the same goals as you. Come up with a plan that works for you to either work out together or call one another to recap your workout week. For instance, I have a friend who comes to my home once a week at 5:45 a.m. to do Insanity with me. Neither of us really want to do it, but more importantly, neither of us want to be the one to back out! Another group of neighbors carpool to a 5:30 a.m. class at the gym. Just being accountable to someone can be very motivating!

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Have a plan of attack. I see so many people wandering around the gym not knowing what to do because they don’t have a plan. Eventually these people end up doing the elliptical or walking on the treadmill for 30 minutes, getting bored and leaving. Although the cardio machines are great for warmup or some cardio, it is so important to branch out and boost your calorie burn with some strength training. Write out your plan as well as a description of the move if you might forget what it looks like and then take it with you! (Many of the workouts are labeled “at home”, but can also be done at the gym.)

Have realistic expectations. Fitness does NOT happen overnight! It takes a long time to put weight on, and the same is true for taking weight off and toning up. Make sure you are adding in at least one rest day so your body can recover from your workouts. Also, good nutrition accounts for most of the weight-loss process. Don’t get discouraged if you miss a workout, just keep going forward!