I have a full load, but seriously what mother (or parent for that matter) doesn’t? I have added to it recently too, which is part of the reason I haven’t found the time to blog here lately (sorry about that by the way, I will be better I promise). I have been successful at finally becoming a fitness instructor at my gym, and if that wasn’t enough to make me just a tiny bit busier, I have decided to go back to school again. I am going back to get my MBA and am looking at another 16 months or so of crazy days, so how am I going to balance it all?
I am not the best at balancing everything I have to do, but when I focus, I am able to find ways to achieve it all. I can say that the days I have had it more together are much different than the days that I just do “whatever.” It’s mostly got to do with how I “attack” my day. It’s not about being more organized really, or having more energy, it’s about how I approach each part of my day. I do much better when I follow a simple rule.
I think it’s all about being “in the moment”. You cannot be everywhere at once, so what is the secret to balancing everything? As a mom, I have been pulled many places all at the same time… I have worked full-time, been pregnant, been in school full-time, kept my house clean (even cleaner than it is now really), put meals on the table every night, and balanced play time and movie nights (and yes, all of that was at one time). It’s not that we can do all of this stuff every single day (because honestly you’ll burn out). However, you can be much more productive and happy than you maybe are now, by just following a small rule. The rule seems too simple to work, but honestly it can change your life.
Wherever you are… be THERE completely. If you decide you are going to play with your kids, play with them and not worry about other things. If you are going to clean, put everything into it for that amount of time (even if it’s only 15 mins). I know what you’re thinking, “What about the kids, they always interrupt me while I’m doing dishes or whatever” Yes, that does happen, but if you find that they do that every time, either get them involved with whatever task you are doing or give them something to do like draw you a picture or writing a letter to someone or watching a DVD that they love… just something to occupy them during that time. I think it’s impossible to be perfect but if you are “in the moment”, then you will do those things you decide to do in that time much better than if you stress over all the other things you could be doing.
There are things that make this rule easier to achieve: keeping a to-do list everyday (and try to get 1/3 – 1/2 of it done at least), keeping your calendar up to date, and scheduling yourself time to do certain things (like making a block of time for things that have to be done); this will help you to not stress over those things when it’s not that block of time, because you know you will do it during that block and can worry about it then and not all day. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help; there are people that will help you… you just have to simply ask.
Some days are easier than other days, and that’s a given. You will get more done on some days, and hardly anything you planned on other days, so honestly if you don’t get everything done that’s completely normal, but if you can do 1/2 of what you had planned, I’m guessing that it’s going to be a lot. This simple rule does work. I can say that anytime I have “been in the moment” and followed this rule myself, I have been more productive and happier than the days that I am not as mindful of this.
It truly does help. Try it, and report back! We love to hear from you. Also, if you have any tips of getting “it all done” and balancing your day, please let us know… we love to hear how all of you super moms get it done!
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